5 Simple Steps to a Happier Pregnancy

It is so easy to be caught up in life and forget about the simple joys. With all the worries and stress of pregnancy it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by everything there is to do. Here’s a few steps you can take to have a happier pregnancy.

 

Step 1: Leave the Facebook Groups

You know the groups who jump down your throat with their mission. A lot of them mean well, and intend to save babies, but the message gets a little lost in translation. If a group is giving you anxiety about carseats, sleep, or any other aspect of pregnancy, ask yourself “Does this group and the time I spend on it add value to my life?” If the answer is anything but yes- leave it!

 

Step 2: Tell the Haters What’s Up

If every time you see a certain friend they want to tell you how much pushing your baby out hurts- tell them “Positive visions are important for my delivery. I don’t want to talk about the pain of childbirth anymore.” If you believe in yourself without question your friends should respect that. Often times people think it is okay to joke about calling you fat, or how you are never going to sleep again. It is totally fine to blame not wanting to discuss those thought on pregnancy hormones.

 

Step 3: Bond With Your Baby

Remember the end goal- it’s having a baby! Spend some time during these months to focus on building a connection with your baby. Take bump shots if that’s what you like. Find a yoga teacher- we love Nature’s Whisper. Find a chiropractor- we love Dr Kayla.  Read stories to your baby, or play music for them. Sit in nature and do kick counts. Whatever it is that makes you feel connected- do it!

 

Step 4: Find Supportive Care Providers

Figure out your birth options. Do you want to deliver with a midwife? Or with an Obstetrician? The care provider doesn’t matter as much as believing that they believe in you. Having a doctor or midwife who you can speak openly with about your hopes, wishes, and fears is important. Here in San Diego it can be hard to find a provider or hospital your insurance covers, but you still have options.

 

Step 5: Find Your Support

Finding people you can talk to on hard days can be a huge weight lifted off your chest. Someone who you can text asking “Is this normal?” Someone who you can call crying when someone’s comment makes you question “I am too big?” We hope your support includes a southern pacific doula- because you deserve the best support.

Thankful For Cesareans

Chances are you have a plan for the birth of your baby. Maybe you’ve been religious about your diet and exercise while pregnant. You’ve been doing all the yoga, Pilates, and chiropractic work to make your body ready to bring your baby into the world.

Even the best laid plans can change. Your plans can change. You can change your plan, or maybe your baby has a plan of their own. After all, the baby holds all the power.

It seems as though people are quick to judge cesarean birth, and I think there is so much misunderstanding about it. This misunderstanding leads some parents to feeling disappointing in themselves, or their ability to birth their baby.

Did you know that not everyone’s body is made for making babies. Your body may be perfect for it, but others have minor problems that make birthing a baby vaginally near impossible.

Some people need cesareans. Some people don’t need a cesarean every time they birth their baby, but some do. Some women need cesareans regardless of their body’s ability to birth vaginally. Some women choose cesarean for a variety of reasons, and none of those reasons are wrong.

Some people question the ‘olden days’ saying “What about in caveman times when they couldn’t have cesareans, or epidurals, or gas, or therapeutic rest! People just listened to their body, and pushed out their baby! Why are we sectioning all these women? First of all it is demeaning to compare cesarean to any cutting, slicing, or sectioning. It is the way these mothers, or babies, are choosing to bring life into the world, and it is awe inspiring. Many people did birth vaginally with no problems, but many did have problems. But childbirth wasn’t as safe then as it is now. In fact it was quite dangerous. It wasn’t uncommon for mom, baby, or both to be lost during birth.

You know what makes birth safer now? It’s medical intervention. It’s inductions, and steroids. It’s testing, and regular doctor appointments to make sure everyone is healthy and on track. It’s also cesarean. Because if your baby isn’t tolerating labor well, they need to be born.

So that’s why I am so thankful cesareans exist. It is amazing that we have this option. Instead of losing your life, or the life of your baby, you can have a cesarean. If your baby’s heart rate drops, you can go into the OR and meet your baby safely. Because who doesn’t want a safe option to bring your baby into the world? 

If You Don’t Hire a Doula

If you decide you don’t want a doula to attend your birth, you will still have a baby, and hopefully a positive birth story. You should still feel respected in the delivery room, and your birth team should still support you. However, if you don’t have a doula on your team you will miss out on a few things.

If you don’t hire a doula, you don’t have an expert available to answer all your questions 24/7.

If you don’t hire a doula, you won’t get cheerful emails about the amazing work you’re doing for your baby already.

If you don’t hire a doula, you won’t have an expert on comfort at your labor.

If you don’t hire a doula, you won’t have someone to call and ask “Am I actually in labor?” or “Does this seem normal?” or “Was that my mucus plug?” or “Can I have sex yet?”

If you don’t hire a doula, you won’t have her there to keep you grounded and under control.

If you don’t hire a doula, you won’t have her assistance making a birth plan.

If you don’t hire a doula, you could be alone for portions of your delivery.

If you don’t hire a doula, you could be alone when you bring your baby home.

If you don’t hire a doula, you could forget your plan, or what questions to ask.

If you don’t hire a doula, you could doubt yourself in the moment.

If you don’t hire a doula, you won’t have someone to interpret your subtle cues.

If you don’t hire a doula, you will have to find the latest and greatest research all by yourself.

If you don’t hire a doula, you might not have someone to remind you the process.

If you don’t have a doula, your partner may not be confident in supporting you.

If you don’t have a doula, your partner won’t have someone there to support them too.

If you don’t hire a doula, you won’t have her hand the hold when you need it.

If you don’t hire a doula, you may regret not having them at your birth.

So your birth experience could be perfect without a doula. You could easily rock pregnancy and birth with just your partner, but we believe the individual, and intimate, touch a doula adds is something worth investing in.