If you’re anything like me, then you want to get the most out of this life. So often women consider pregnancy as just means to an end- you’re sacrificing your mind and body for almost an entire year so you can make a baby. That’s it. The suffering and success both matter very little.
But pregnancy is a journey and transformation. Get the most out of this experience. Let pregnancy be the first part of your motherhood journey. The keyword being journey, because motherhood doesn’t have a destination.
Do all the prenatal things. Have a gender reveal party. Having a baby shower, have two or three baby showers even if this is your 3rd pregnancy. Take a childbirth education class. Find excuses to bring people together to celebrate your journey to motherhood. Or don’t. Plan a baby-moon with just you and your honey. Or a spa day for just you and your baby.
Hire a birth photographer, labor doula, and plan for support after your baby. You only get to bring this baby into the world once, so do all of the extra things you want to. Or at least consider all of these things.
Let yourself daydream about your perfect birth. Envision more than going to the local hospital, laying in bed until you hit 10 centimeters, and then pushing on your back. Think about your options, and decide what fits you. Maybe you want to tour a few hospitals, and pick the hospital that has the most accommodating atmosphere. Maybe you want to tour some birth centers too, or interview some home birth midwives. Let your mind run wild with the possibilities.
Whatever you decide to do during this pregnancy, remember it’s your only pregnancy with this child. It is special, and an incredible time of life. Think about everything you can possibly do, and explore those options. Then pick the opportunities that feels right to you. How you bring your baby into the world matters. You should be in a comfortable environment, surrounded by a comfortable birth team, feeling important and in control.
Don’t settle for less, and remember that your pregnancy can be such a wonderful experience. It’s so much more than making a baby, it’s a brand new chapter of life. Welcome this new chapter and cherish the experience.